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The Top 6 Reasons Why You Should Hate Dan Savage

queerandpresentdanger:

TW for pretty much everything

forgetpolitics:

1. Dan Savage hates trans people and uses transphobic slurs.

“Children have a right to some stability and constancy from the adults in their lives. Perhaps I’m a transphobic bigot, but I honestly think waiting a measly 36 months to cut your dick is a sacrifice any father should be willing to make for his 15-year-old son. Call me old-fashioned.

Unfortunately, your ex wasn’t willing to make that sacrifice (selfish tranny!), or it never occurred to him to make that sacrifice (stupid tranny!)…. If your son can’t deal with having his dad/mom/whatever around right now, support him and tell his dad/mom/whatever to leave the two of you alone for the time being.”

2. Dan Savage believes that bisexuals do not and should not exist.

“I’m not saying bi guys are bad people, or they don’t make great one-night stands. Bushes, bathhouses, and sleazy gay bars are crawling with bi guys. But if a guy wants more, he’ll have an easier time getting it from another gay man.”

3. Dan Savage has admonished women for not putting up with their partner’s sexual desires and has criticized female rape survivors’ stories.

There the guy was, boned for you, and he was brave enough to put his desires out there, to make himself vulnerable (which is what the ladies are always saying they want, right?), and you lobbed the ol’ “What?!?” bomb at him and made him feel like a freak. Is it any wonder that he quickly moved on to “other things” and, one would hope, better sex partners?”

I’m extremely sorry that you were raped, DRARS, although your baseless accusations of rape make me doubt you when you claim to be a survivor of rape. The feminist bloggers are going to accuse me of thought crimes: If a woman says she was raped then, by God, she was raped. (Tell it to the lacrosse team.) But if my reaction to your letter is a thought crime, I can only plead entrapment: I wouldn’t have had these illegal thoughts if you hadn’t sent me such a stupid letter in the first place… Finally, DRARS, I hereby withdraw my consent for you to read Savage Love. If you continue to read my column against my will, well, we all know what word to apply to your actions.”

4. Dan Savage thinks that racist gay white men are less of a threat to African-Americans than homophobic African-Americans are to gay people.

“I do know this, though: I’m done pretending that the handful of racist gay white men out there—and they’re out there, and I think they’re scum—are a bigger problem for African Americans, gay and straight, than the huge numbers of homophobic African Americans are for gay Americans, whatever their color.”

EDIT: Here are some more lovely gems from our resident asshole Dan Savage on his rampant hatred for everything not white, male, and gay:

5. Dan Savage thinks asexuals are secretly “fags”.

“I appreciate the feedback, Stephanie, and I’m sorry I offended you. But… um… I couldn’t help but think, as I read your letter, that your boyfriend is either a fool or a fag. But if it works for you guys—if a romantic relationship devoid of sexual attraction and activity works for you guys—then it works for you guys. Who am I to argue with success?”

6. Dan Savage is fatphobic.

“First off, LARDASS, you neglected to include a sign-off, forcing me to create one for you. I tried to create one that captured the spirit and tone of your letter, and I think I did pretty well… I am thoroughly annoyed at having my tame statements of fact—being heavy is a health risk; rolls of exposed flesh are unsightly—characterized as ‘hate speech.’”

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Source: forgetpolitics
thisgingersnapsback:

sonic-hip-attack:

daskannnichtsein:

bayergal:

bubonickitten:

unknowablewoman:

golden-notebook:

I hate this ad campaign. “Let’s shame the fat kids more! That’ll learn ‘em. Especially the girls! Yeah, girls need to hear more that they’re fat. I bet they don’t know!”
Fuck off, state of Georgia.

I know if there’s one thing I didn’t hear enough growing up, it’s that I needed to lose weight! Thank heavens someone is finally telling kids the truth! 

File under: worst public health campaigns.
Pretty much amounts to adults bullying and concern trolling kids.

these are meant to be for the parents theres a whole video thing. i like it. parents are feeding their children shit because its easier and their kids are getting fat. and maybe diabetes or heart problems etc. and a kid can try and watch what they eat but really. it’s the parents right to look after their child and make them eat healthy food, let them grow up healthy.
i wish my parents saw this because i am fat and i sure as hell didn’t pick and choose what i ate until i had the money to buy my own food and workout etc.
WARNING: this sign is telling the fucking truth deal with it.

lol you have no idea what you’re talking about. 
this entire campaign is BRAND NU INFORMATION!11111
SHAME FAT CHILDREN!
fuck this shit, fuck any asshole who supports it

I wish my parents had made better choices for me, too.  I still don’t support putting signs up that tell little kids they aren’t acceptable if they’re fat.
I saw an interview with someone spearheading this project, and I was screaming at the television.  This is NOT the way to end heart disease and diabetes.  There are systemic changes that need to occur from the ground up.  Our food industry is FUCKED UP and KILLING US. 
We can all make smarter, healthier choices with what we’ve got, but we can only do so much.  
This isn’t the answer.
Body shaming CHILDREN isn’t the answer.  And if you think this is going to inspire guilt and shame in parents only and the kids will be unaffected - you live in a fantasy world, and you should know that guilt and shame are the most poisonous emotions that can taint someone’s entire life.  They are NOT powerful vehicles for change.  They create fear and stasis in someone’s life. 
Guilt is toxic, just like these signs.

To add on to these lovely comments, since I was previously just pissed and only on my phone, thus limiting my ability to properly act out on this pissyness, I’d like to contribute.
Just because these ads are “directed” at parents doesn’t make them okay. A parent who shames their child out of ~love~ or ~concern~ is still shaming them, and if they put into their child raising practices anything out of this fucked up campaign, they are guilty of shaming.
Imagine this. A mother watches this ad and is “touched” by its meaning. So, she goes home to her twelve year old daughter, who is perhaps “overweight.” Said daughter has already experienced enough bullying and torture due to her weight from her peers. Now, the mother thinks, “Well boy oh boy! Now I know how to fix my daughter’s problems!” and starts her twelve year old daughter on a “diet.” The daughter is probably going to be a hellacious mix of emotions. For starters, she is taught that the way to properly handle bullies is by adhering to their standards and “fixing” yourself so that you don’t get made fun of anymore. And she’s learning this from her mother, so since her mother wants her to changer her body too, clearly all the kids at school are right, and she is fat, worthless, and ugly. She goes on a “diet,” and a million things could take place.
She could lose weight. Children might stop bullying her (though this rarely happens, once kids have identified someone to pick on, they rarely stop for any reason) and she might develop a bit of self-confidence—but from what? Her newfound self-confidence isn’t discovered by loving herself as who she is, but rather loving herself for changing her body so that other people like her. Tell me now, is that “healthy”?
She could begin a chain of diets that are extremely unhealthy. There is nothing healthy about a diet anyway, and children need all the types of foods that diets typically tell you to stay away from. Diets operate by depriving your body of foods that it probably requires—if in small doses, sure, but a diet’s main goal is to get you to lose weight quickly, not keep yourself healthy.
She could become obsessed with her weight, if she’s not already, and this could transform into various and multiple Eating Disorders. Her health could dwindle, and again, I have to ask how “healthy” this is.
I’ve witnessed these things first hand. My step-mother is obsessed with my little sister’s (technically half-sister) weight. I once overheard her and my father discussing what they were going to put into the cooler for their road trip to the beach, and my dad mentioned soda. My step-mom said, “Don’t let -little sister’s name- have any of that soda. She’s been gaining weight this summer.”
I stared at her, dumbfounded. My little sister is twelve years old and a ”normal” weight, if not underweight. She is a beautiful, BEAUTIFUL little girl, and her mother is already shaming her for her weight—and has been doing so as long as I can remember. Fuck, the poor girl has been on more “diets” than I have in my lifetime. 
I am terrified for her health. She’s gorgeous, she’s definitely “popular,” and her mother spends her time enforcing how much weight and looks are important—where on earth will this lead my little sister? She’s already expressed concern to me about losing weight, or gaining weight, and once as a younger child exclaimed that I had a “huge, fat belly!” and that it was gross, and that I needed to diet.
Campaigns like this, no matter who they are targeted to, are fucking harmful as shit. So you can take your defensive “it’s the parent’s responsibility to keep their kid ~healthy~!” bullshit and stuff it between two sesame buns and watch me eat it.

Who the fuck thought this campain was a good idea. =3= 

thisgingersnapsback:

sonic-hip-attack:

daskannnichtsein:

bayergal:

bubonickitten:

unknowablewoman:

golden-notebook:

I hate this ad campaign. “Let’s shame the fat kids more! That’ll learn ‘em. Especially the girls! Yeah, girls need to hear more that they’re fat. I bet they don’t know!”

Fuck off, state of Georgia.

I know if there’s one thing I didn’t hear enough growing up, it’s that I needed to lose weight! Thank heavens someone is finally telling kids the truth! 

File under: worst public health campaigns.

Pretty much amounts to adults bullying and concern trolling kids.

these are meant to be for the parents theres a whole video thing. i like it. parents are feeding their children shit because its easier and their kids are getting fat. and maybe diabetes or heart problems etc. and a kid can try and watch what they eat but really. it’s the parents right to look after their child and make them eat healthy food, let them grow up healthy.

i wish my parents saw this because i am fat and i sure as hell didn’t pick and choose what i ate until i had the money to buy my own food and workout etc.

WARNING: this sign is telling the fucking truth deal with it.

lol you have no idea what you’re talking about. 

this entire campaign is BRAND NU INFORMATION!11111

SHAME FAT CHILDREN!

fuck this shit, fuck any asshole who supports it

I wish my parents had made better choices for me, too.  I still don’t support putting signs up that tell little kids they aren’t acceptable if they’re fat.

I saw an interview with someone spearheading this project, and I was screaming at the television.  This is NOT the way to end heart disease and diabetes.  There are systemic changes that need to occur from the ground up.  Our food industry is FUCKED UP and KILLING US. 

We can all make smarter, healthier choices with what we’ve got, but we can only do so much.  

This isn’t the answer.

Body shaming CHILDREN isn’t the answer.  And if you think this is going to inspire guilt and shame in parents only and the kids will be unaffected - you live in a fantasy world, and you should know that guilt and shame are the most poisonous emotions that can taint someone’s entire life.  They are NOT powerful vehicles for change.  They create fear and stasis in someone’s life. 

Guilt is toxic, just like these signs.

To add on to these lovely comments, since I was previously just pissed and only on my phone, thus limiting my ability to properly act out on this pissyness, I’d like to contribute.

Just because these ads are “directed” at parents doesn’t make them okay. A parent who shames their child out of ~love~ or ~concern~ is still shaming them, and if they put into their child raising practices anything out of this fucked up campaign, they are guilty of shaming.

Imagine this. A mother watches this ad and is “touched” by its meaning. So, she goes home to her twelve year old daughter, who is perhaps “overweight.” Said daughter has already experienced enough bullying and torture due to her weight from her peers. Now, the mother thinks, “Well boy oh boy! Now I know how to fix my daughter’s problems!” and starts her twelve year old daughter on a “diet.” The daughter is probably going to be a hellacious mix of emotions. For starters, she is taught that the way to properly handle bullies is by adhering to their standards and “fixing” yourself so that you don’t get made fun of anymore. And she’s learning this from her mother, so since her mother wants her to changer her body too, clearly all the kids at school are right, and she is fat, worthless, and ugly. She goes on a “diet,” and a million things could take place.

She could lose weight. Children might stop bullying her (though this rarely happens, once kids have identified someone to pick on, they rarely stop for any reason) and she might develop a bit of self-confidence—but from what? Her newfound self-confidence isn’t discovered by loving herself as who she is, but rather loving herself for changing her body so that other people like her. Tell me now, is that “healthy”?

She could begin a chain of diets that are extremely unhealthy. There is nothing healthy about a diet anyway, and children need all the types of foods that diets typically tell you to stay away from. Diets operate by depriving your body of foods that it probably requires—if in small doses, sure, but a diet’s main goal is to get you to lose weight quickly, not keep yourself healthy.

She could become obsessed with her weight, if she’s not already, and this could transform into various and multiple Eating Disorders. Her health could dwindle, and again, I have to ask how “healthy” this is.

I’ve witnessed these things first hand. My step-mother is obsessed with my little sister’s (technically half-sister) weight. I once overheard her and my father discussing what they were going to put into the cooler for their road trip to the beach, and my dad mentioned soda. My step-mom said, “Don’t let -little sister’s name- have any of that soda. She’s been gaining weight this summer.”

I stared at her, dumbfounded. My little sister is twelve years old and a ”normal” weight, if not underweight. She is a beautiful, BEAUTIFUL little girl, and her mother is already shaming her for her weight—and has been doing so as long as I can remember. Fuck, the poor girl has been on more “diets” than I have in my lifetime. 

I am terrified for her health. She’s gorgeous, she’s definitely “popular,” and her mother spends her time enforcing how much weight and looks are important—where on earth will this lead my little sister? She’s already expressed concern to me about losing weight, or gaining weight, and once as a younger child exclaimed that I had a “huge, fat belly!” and that it was gross, and that I needed to diet.

Campaigns like this, no matter who they are targeted to, are fucking harmful as shit. So you can take your defensive “it’s the parent’s responsibility to keep their kid ~healthy~!” bullshit and stuff it between two sesame buns and watch me eat it.

Who the fuck thought this campain was a good idea. =3= 

(via glittertitties-deactivated20130)

Source: hlntv.com

coquifroggy:

qichi:

Thank you, weeaboostories and so many other people who warn about bad cosplay experiences, for correlating “immature and impolite person with no sense of physical boundaries” with “fat people.”

Thank you in the way where it means I’m going to punch you in the throat.

Seriously, that’s one of the things that bugs the SHIT out of me with some of these blogs: they try to act like they’re totally not fat shaming…but then they are.

(via corgidoggy)

Source: qichi